It is rare that the “other person” cares at all, because they only think about what’s between their own legs. My mum is another woman, and this is what she says about the man she’s currently dating:

“Yeah, his wife is in the hospital. I feel bad for her. Oh well!” Yeah, you feel really bad for her, don’t you, when you’re screwing her fucking husband while she’s in the hospital dying? Yeah, real fucking nice.

Hate it all, I hate it, dammit. And yeah, let’s talk about stalkers, when the man who my ex cheated on me with stalks me and reads what I’m about, then tells her that I’m a pedophile and that I’m going to murder her in her sleep. Like he really knows me, fucking jerk. And then he has the nerve to say to her, “He’s not your daddy. He’s not your master.” Yeah, let’s talk about stalkers is right.

It’s always fault on the one who was cheated on. Always. Always fault on them, that “they were mean, they were not affectionate, they were this, they were that.” Hate to break it to the people with nothing between their ears, but it’s NOT anyone’s fault who was cheated on.

I went on a rant, didn’t I? Well, that’s how I feel about your post. Hopefully, someday soon, you’ll stop reading that person’s things – it’s only going to hurt you and allow those horrid feelings to resurface.

**huggs**

Thanks for your post and your honesty.

@Britni I know. Logically, I know better. In my head I know that it keeps reopening old wounds. I know that it will be better when I stop feeling the need to check up on her, but getting to that point is taking a while. Eventually I know I will stop checking up on her. It will be hard though, like breaking a bad habit. Thanks. =)

However, I’ve also been in your position. And I obsessed about the other woman. I checked her Facebook religiously. I even befriended her in an effort to know what it was about her that he liked, to keep my friends close and my enemies closer. And I discovered that all that obsessing over her? Wasn’t helping me move on or repair my relationship. It was unhealthy. What do you gain from continuing to check her blog? All it does is upset you, or remind you about her. You say that you’re trying to repair your relationship with your husband, and to move beyond the affair. Why not move behind her, then? Put her in your past, where you’re trying to put his affair. It will be so much better for you, I promise.

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