What is Going On Down There?!

Posted by Sarahbear on August 25, 2010

My sex drive has been improving, slightly. I’m not ravenous and I have some moody days, but I feel like I generally want to have sex more frequently. The problem is that when I do, no matter how much foreplay or touching we do, I’m not getting wet (and I am usually at least soaking my panties). I also can not feel a god damn thing! Well, I take that back, I do feel it when we hit a bad angle or there’s too much weight on my episiotomy scar. Other than that, I am getting no real pleasurable sensations.

I can’t feel my clitoris, it’s painful to stimulate my g-spot and it’s frustrating the hell out of me because it’s having an impact on my mood to not be able to have sex and orgasm.

Occasionally, when I hear Chad nearing an orgasm, I will suddenly begin feeling enough to have an orgasm, but it’s not a very big one. I’ve googled losing sensitivity in clitoris/vulva and all I seem to keep pulling up are questions or papers about using sex toys and losing sensitivity. Which is untrue, long term, though you can temporarily desensitize yourself if you’re using vibrators, but the sensations come back after a little while of not using them. I, however, have not been using toys very frequently and it’s because I can’t feel them anyway.

How do I complete sex toy reviews? How do I even out my moods and restore the intimacy in my marriage? We’re talking more and he’s taking walks with me and the dog, but there is a huge missing puzzle piece when I can’t enjoy sex. He gets off on my enjoyment and it relaxes me. I bought lingerie that I look very sexy in. Lingerie that he told me was probably the most well fitting piece we own, and I still couldn’t get turned on.

I’m hoping it’s just something hormonal, because I haven’t been able to get my doctor’s office to call in the prescription for my birth control yet. I should have been taking the first week by now and maybe the hormones are making my body all wonky. I don’t know, but I’m going nuts here. I want to have a freaking orgasm, and a good one, soon. You don’t realize how long a week or two is when you go without sex, or at least you can’t feel the sex you’re having. I thought weight loss, eating right and exercising were suppose to make sex better. I hope this sorts itself out soon because I don’t know if our insurance covers going to a doctor for ‘Why the fuck isn’t my vagina working anymore?’