Review: Tickle Your Fancy

Posted by Sarahbear on November 28, 2011

Tickle Your Fancy

I went to one of those “pleasure” parties a few years ago and purchased a book written by Dr. Sadie Allison that I loved. When MyPleasure was offering another one of her books to review last month, I put in my request and waited for it to arrive.

Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure manages to take you through the basics definitions and techniques for female masturbation, while being conveniently condensed into about 100 pages and providing plenty of cute cartoon, yet accurate, diagrams. Dr. Sadie Allison manages this by giving much of her information in bullet points and using the drawings to help drive the point home.

In the beginning of the book she discusses how female masturbation has been considered taboo in much of society, pointing out how this has led to a real lack of experience and knowledge about what works for women sexually. Our bodies are complicated. We all like different things and learning how to orgasm takes time. Once she assures her readers that female masturbation and experimentation is okay, she lists the different parts of our anatomy that can be sexually stimulated. Each part is clearly labeled on a cartoon drawing and defined. She encourages women to take a mirror and look at themselves to help identify and recognize the different parts of our body. This can definitely help us learn what we enjoy.

Next she moves on to doing things like setting the mood. It’s important for partnered sex, but women enjoy sensual music or porn during masturbation too. A bubble bath, having the lights dimmed and candles lit can help relax our bodies and make it easier for us to achieve an orgasm. She mentions the importance of using lubricants before finally moving on to different techniques you can use to touch your clitoris, labia and the entire vulva to figure out what sort of stimulating feelings you enjoy. She briefly discusses the types of toys you can use and how you should clean them, along with discussing the safety of various products.

This is basically a really great how-to book that explains all of the basics in a non-intimidating format. Depending on the type of relationship you have with your mother, friends or daughters, it might be a good gift idea.