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Eroscillator 2 Plus

At first, I toyed around with the different heads. I was trying to figure out what I liked the most. Sometimes I got off. Sometimes I didn’t. Sometimes there was way too much stimulation. Sometimes there wasn’t enough. Then my sex drive took a nose dive, and I stuck it in my nightstand drawer for almost a year. I couldn’t be bothered to use any of my toys on a regular basis, let alone one that seemed like a crap shoot. Fast forward to the new year. I cleaned out my toy box and got rid of a bunch of things I didn’t like, but I held onto the Eroscillator because I wanted to give it another shot. The fact that I paid cash for it also contributed heavily to my desire to keep it around. One afternoon, when I had the house to myself and woke up very horny after a nap, I decided it was time for the Eroscillator to show me it was worth keeping.

That afternoon, I had one of the most intense orgasms I have ever had.

I’ve mentioned before, perhaps not here, that my weight affected my sexual function. A lot of fat people are capable of having very active, wonderful and pleasurable sex lives. I was capable of sex, but where my fat deposited itself… really got in the way of my pleasure zones. Who would imagine that you could have fatty labia? Now that I’ve lost weight, everything is way more sensitive and responsive to stimulation.

I’m supposed to be reviewing the Eroscillator though. It’s basically an electric toothbrush, at least as far as the way it functions. Most vibrators have a motor inside that creates this buzzing, intense vibration that sort of jackhammers your clitoris. The Eroscillator has attachable heads that move back and forth, very quickly, which mimics the way your fingers or a tongue might move (if they had a powerful motor behind them). It may not sound like a huge difference, but it is.

Believe me.

The one I ordered came with 3 different heads, with 6 separate sides. So each attachment had different textures on either side of it. The first is called “Ball and Cup” and it’s pretty self explanatory, if you look at the name. One side is a rounded ball with three raised nubs, the other is a shallow cup shaped hole.

Ball and Cup

Ball and Cup

The second is “Grapes and Cockscomb”, another self explanatory attachment. One side is shaped like a cluster of grapes and the other has prongs, like a comb, though there is no space between them.

Grapes and Cockscomb

Grapes and Cockscomb

The other attachment is the “Golden Spoon”. One side is shaped like a spoon, with a very small raised nub on the inside tip, the other is a flat disc with nine raised nubs in an oval shape.

Golden Spoon

Golden Spoon

Each attachment has a unique sensation when it’s being used and there are several other attachments you can purchase separately or with the upgraded version of the Eroscillator. I can hardly handle the intensity of the first setting on the original Eroscillator, so I’m just going to invest in the extras later on. I did have the fingertip attachment, which was really awesome. It needed more lubricant than the others, but the marshmallow texture felt really good. Somehow it got punctured and I’ll have to buy a new one though.

If you had asked me last year about the Eroscillator, I’d have told you not to waste your money. Now I find myself reaching for it all the time. I think I’ve used it three times this past week alone. Of course, the fact that it has a plug is pretty useful (the cord is like 12 feet long on this thing, so no worries about not being able to find an outlet close enough to where you need to use it.) I don’t have to worry about whether or not I’ve charged the battery or if the batteries are going to die in the middle of my orgasm. I just plug it up behind my nightstand and tuck it into the top drawer, so it’s easy to grab whenever I want to use it. I guess you can plainly see that if you asked me today if you should get an Eroscillator, I would drive you to the store myself and put it in your cart.

Unfortunately, I can’t be with everyone as their personal shopper, but I can direct you to EdenFantasys to pick one up for yourself.

Description of textures

The Tenga Air Lite is a male masturbator with loads of texture. You can choose between black or white, with black being a bit more firm (according to the site). The inside of the shaft has all sorts of nubs, swirls, and ridges that are designed to give maximum stimulation to the penis. Similar products have the same texture throughout their toys, but Tenga took care to make sure that the user would be pleasantly surprised with every thrust. Not only does the texture change as you get deeper into the toy, but each side has a different design, including special textures at the insertion point and where the head of the penis will spend most of it’s time.

Close up of texture

On the outside of the case, there are two buttons that increase the suction. Users have recommended that you hold them down and use plenty of lube during insertion. After that, you can squeeze them to create more suction and pressure. Since the case is smaller, it’s easier to grip and your arms won’t tire out as quickly from the weight. It’s also easier to twist and squeeze the buttons. As with the Fliphole, the texture can be a bit much once you orgasm and your penis gets super sensitive.

Cleaning is super easy. Just remove the cap, open it up and wash it with antibacterial soap then set it on the counter to dry out. Once it’s dry, you can put the cap back on it and store it in the nightstand, or wherever you keep your favorite toys. It comes with a water based lubricant, and I’d recommend using water based lubes with it. I’m unsure if silicones or oils might mess up the material.

Tenga sort of makes me wish I had a penis, but then I remember all the fun toys I have. Men don’t have a lot of options, ya know? Tenga makes some pretty awesome products and they come highly recommended by the penis owner in my house. He wrote the other review if you’re interested in a man’s perspective on it all. If you’re looking for a masturbation sleeve, get yourself a Tenga from Babeland.

*Pictures from tenga-europe.com

Nexus Neo

Months ago, before life got hectic around here, the folks from Nexus sent me some great prostate massagers to try out. One of them was the Nexus Neo. Though Chad tried it and loved it shortly after it arrived, I have been distracted about getting it reviewed. Shame on me too, because it’s really a great toy.

For starters, it’s orange. I think I own one other orange toy and there might be handful of orange sex toys on the market. Orange is a fun color and more toys should have an orange option.

Okay, enough gushing about how awesome it is that a toy comes in a color besides black or purple. The Neo comes in black and purple, but you can also choose red, white or orange as well.

The Nexus Neo is a firm, plastic prostate massager.  With hard toys (like glass, metal and this type of plastic), you should choose a smaller girth, since it won’t give the way a silicone toy will. This is about the width of two fingers, which is something that should be comfortable for many people. Even those fairly new to anal play. Just be sure to use plenty of lubricant and take your time.

The design should make it easy to insert. The tip is somewhat bulbous and the shaft is similar to most plugs on the market. The base has three ridges that will create some pretty intense sensations for all the sensitive nerves around the anus while you rock it back and forth to massage the prostate. Beneath that is a long handle for ease of use and safety. One side of the handle there is a stainless steel ball that will roll around and massage your perenium, which stimulates the prostate from the outside of the body. That’s pretty awesome design, when you consider that you’re stimulating the prostate from two different angles as well as the anus. Imagine the intensity of your orgasm.

The handle can be easily reached by you, or used by a partner (Which is pretty amazing for blow jobs. Just sayin’.) If you’re interested in prostate massage, Nexus products are worth the investment.

I asked the folks at OurNaughtySecrets.com if they’d send me the 5-pack sampler of ID Juicy Lubes. I figured they would make a great stocking stuffer for my husband. I like doing cute stuff like that. The bottles are small enough to tuck into a purse, pocket or luggage for a weekend trip.

ID Juice Lubes

Before neatly tucking them underneath his Reese’s Pieces and Jolly Ranchers, I gave each of the half ounce bottles a taste. The flavors are Luscious Watermelon, Bubblegum Blast, Wild Cherry, Strawberry Kiwi, and Passion Fruit. Each of them lived up to their names. My favorite was the Strawberry Kiwi and the Watermelon. You’ll probably enjoy similar flavors in lubes that you enjoy in candies. These aren’t nearly as sweet and powerful as candy though. It gives you more of a subtle flavoring.

They can leave a bit of a sticky residue, as many water based lubricants do, but that shouldn’t be a problem. Saliva reactivates it and makes it slippery again, and since it’s for oral sex… I will say that moving forward with penetration after foreplay may require a different lubricant. ID is a good brand though and you shouldn’t have much of a problem. If you have sensitivities to glycerin, you may want to avoid this though. Especially internally.

So far, I like them. I’ll have to wait and see how much more I like them after Chad gets to check his stocking. If you’re looking for any last minute stocking stuffers yourself, check out the lube selection at OurNaughtySecrets.com!

XXXmas Cane

The cane is about 11″ long with a 1″ diameter. That may seem slender, but glass is less forgiving than silicone or other squishy materials, so it’s a good idea to go with a smaller girth. It’s shaped and designed to look like a classic candy cane, with clear glass, red swirls and a distinct hook on the end. The hook could be used for some pretty intense g-spot stimulation, depending on where your g-spot is located. It doubles as a convenient handle as well.

It comes with a black velvet bag that’s tucked behind the styrofoam case. Make sure to check for it!

Glass dildos have some fairly unique properties, similar to metal ones, in that it can be heated or cooled. Just slip it into a bowl of ice water or hot water before use and the temperature should make for some interesting sensations. You can also use any type of lube with it.

One of my favorite features of this particular toy is that it’s holiday themed. How much fun would it be to stick this into your partner’s stocking?! It’s an awfully convenient prop to use with Santa lingerie too.

Why not head on over to OurNaughtySecrets.com and get yourself a last minute Christmas gift?

Sampler Set

It’s no secret that I’m a fan of JimmyJane products. Well, their massage products. I’ve yet to really test many of their vibrators. I love their candles and ceramic massagers so much that I didn’t just buy a set for myself  last Christmas. I also bought some for my parents. I picked a fragrance I knew each of them would like and got them the Contour M. For Chad and I, I picked up the Afterglow Sampler set and the Contour I. I really wanted the Contour Q as well, but it doesn’t seem to be in stock anywhere.

I guess I’ll start with the sampler. It’s a set of 6 candles in some of JimmyJane’s best scents:

1. Bourbon – This is a really musky, woodsy scent.
2. Cucumber Water – Similar to the favorite cucumber scented body lotions available everywhere. My second favorite in the set.
3. Dark Vanilla – A heavy vanilla scent that’s less sweet smelling than your average vanilla lotion or candle.
4. Grapefruit – Citrus-sweet scent that I wasn’t very fond of.
5. Pink Lotus – Difficult to describe, but my absolute favorite of the bunch.
6. Truffle and Gardenia – Very floral scent.

Each candle is a little less than half the size of the regular sized candles, standing at 1 & 1/4″ tall. I probably got about 5-8 massages out of each candle, and Chad uses a liberal amount of the melted wax. The oil melts fairly quickly (much quicker than LELO’s candles) and spreads well. You can get enough for a massage after about 20 minutes of burning. I usually take a shower and do all my pre-bedtime stuff while it’s lit. By the time I’m done, there’s enough to work with. The best thing about massage candles is that the wax gets heated to the absolute perfect temperature. It’s warm enough to relax the muscles and be sensual, but it’s not hot enough to blister your skin. It’s quite moisturizing and can be a tad heavy during the summer months if you live in a humid place like I do. During the winter, when skin tends to be dryer, it’s perfect.

There are some perks with getting the sampler instead of the full sized candles. Of course, you get to try out a wider variety of scents if you’re unsure which you or your partner would prefer. They also make excellent gifts since they come in the simple white box with the gorgeous pink ribbon tied around it. I’ve gushed before about how perfect JimmyJane products are for gifts due to their simple yet pretty packaging. You can give the set all together in the box, where it’s sort of like a box of chocolates with the guide showing what scent is where. Or, you can take the mini-candles and stuff them into a stocking (they’re labeled on the bottom and sealed, so don’t worry about confusing the scents or them spilling) along with the JimmyJane Contour ceramic massagers. I put my parents stuff in a big basket and they loved it.

Speaking of the ceramic massagers, I picked up the Contour I* along with my sampler. It works with the Contour M by fitting into the grooves and creates a handle to roll it around with. All of the massagers can be used alone or combined with each other. The ceramic can be heated or cooled in a bowl of warm or cold water, and it maintains it’s temperature for a while. This is really great with the candles because the warm wax heats up the ceramic to just the right temperature. I absolutely love all of these and can’t recommend them enough.

The one thing I do want to mention about the candles is that you want to keep something covering them when they’re not being used. The wax is a different texture than regular candles and the dust from the air sticks to it. You may also want to pinch off the blackened part of the wick to prevent the charred part from flaking off into the candle. You don’t really want that mixed in with your massage oil.

*The Contour I only seems to be available at EdenFantasys with the Beyond Euphoric lotion as a set. The lotion is amazing too, and I reviewed it here.

Tickle Your Fancy

I went to one of those “pleasure” parties a few years ago and purchased a book written by Dr. Sadie Allison that I loved. When MyPleasure was offering another one of her books to review last month, I put in my request and waited for it to arrive.

Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure manages to take you through the basics definitions and techniques for female masturbation, while being conveniently condensed into about 100 pages and providing plenty of cute cartoon, yet accurate, diagrams. Dr. Sadie Allison manages this by giving much of her information in bullet points and using the drawings to help drive the point home.

In the beginning of the book she discusses how female masturbation has been considered taboo in much of society, pointing out how this has led to a real lack of experience and knowledge about what works for women sexually. Our bodies are complicated. We all like different things and learning how to orgasm takes time. Once she assures her readers that female masturbation and experimentation is okay, she lists the different parts of our anatomy that can be sexually stimulated. Each part is clearly labeled on a cartoon drawing and defined. She encourages women to take a mirror and look at themselves to help identify and recognize the different parts of our body. This can definitely help us learn what we enjoy.

Next she moves on to doing things like setting the mood. It’s important for partnered sex, but women enjoy sensual music or porn during masturbation too. A bubble bath, having the lights dimmed and candles lit can help relax our bodies and make it easier for us to achieve an orgasm. She mentions the importance of using lubricants before finally moving on to different techniques you can use to touch your clitoris, labia and the entire vulva to figure out what sort of stimulating feelings you enjoy. She briefly discusses the types of toys you can use and how you should clean them, along with discussing the safety of various products.

This is basically a really great how-to book that explains all of the basics in a non-intimidating format. Depending on the type of relationship you have with your mother, friends or daughters, it might be a good gift idea.

Sinner's Paradise One-Size

A couple of weeks ago, the folks at MyPleasure were kind enough to send me some new items to review. One of those items was the “Sinner’s Paradise” lingerie set by Dreamgirl. I’ve been meaning to pick it up for a while now, since it was fairly inexpensive and looked very sexy on the models.

To start, the costume comes in two sizes. One size fits most or Queen. My measurements put me in the queen sized version. As far as sizing goes, the material is very slinky and stretchy, so it would likely expand to fit the range of measurements it claims to. The halter neck allows for the bust to be adjusted to fit a wide variety of chest sizes as well, while still being fairly flattering. The ruched seam down the front of the sheer chemise helps to camouflage any areas you might be self conscious about.

More accurate see-through Queen Size

When I say sheer, I mean sheer. The picture on the site does not demonstrate how thin and see through this thing is. That’s not a bad thing, considering it is lingerie, but it’s something to keep in mind. The box it came it shows a more accurate portrayal of the item, complete with visible nipples, belly button, butt crack and thong. You more than likely wouldn’t want to choose this for a costume party.

There are a few things that are kind of meh about the costume though. First, the tail sucks. It’s as if Dreamgirl took a wire hanger, covered it in the same red sheer material as the chemise, sewed a little red heart on the bottom and tacked it to the back of the costume before bending it in a zigzag and cramming it into the box. You can’t wear the costume straight out of the box. It takes a good 10 minutes to straighten out the tail and then try to shape it into the cute curve in the pictures. Even then, it just sort of hangs oddly off of your butt because the weight of the tail pulls the delicate material of the chemise. In my opinion, you don’t even really need the tail, so you could carefully clip it off with a pair of sewing scissors.

See Through Queen Size Back with "cute" tail

The other things that seem like more of an afterthought are the headband and thong. The headband does not stand up like it does in the photos. Since it’s the same material as the rest of the lingerie, it’s very delicate and stretchy. It also ties around your head, underneath your hair, which doesn’t help it stand up. It works as a red headband, but it doesn’t achieve the appearance of devil horns. The thong is just a cheaply made, sheer, red, one-size fits poorly piece of string. You don’t really need the thong, I guess, but if they’re going to go through the trouble to make all of these extra items to add to the lingerie, they could at least make it worthwhile.

All in all, it’s not exactly my favorite lingerie. I don’t honestly think it’s worth the $34 price tag. I’m probably going to snip off the tail and toss the other pieces, because the chemise is pretty and comfortable enough by itself and I already own it. There are a few DreamGirl products that I have liked, but I definitely prefer the quality of Coquette.

Because they’re awesome!

Chloe from Nexus sent me a few of their products to try out a couple of months back and the Silo was one of them.

The Silo

For starters, the Silo is one of the prostate plugs offered by Nexus. All that means is that it’s more of a hands free option. The design allows it to slide in and stay put while stimulating the prostate. If you squeeze or flex the muscles in that area, the plug will sort of rock back and forth to massage your prostate. It can be worn during sex or masturbation. A lot of times, the natural muscle spasms from having an orgasm and movements you use to thrust will be enough to move the plug.

Having said all of that, the plug was too large for Phallicity to enjoy. He wasn’t comfortable using it for anal play (on me or himself) because it’s size and shape are more geared for very advanced butt players. It’s made of a 100% matte silicone, which creates a bit more of a drag and gives some resistance to entry. It also doesn’t really have a slow taper that lends itself to more gentle anal use. Eventually, he may decide he’s ready for it, but for now he’s content to use the smaller plugs and massagers we own (and will be reviewing soon!).

Next to the Fun Factory Bootie (left) and Njoy Pure Plug small (right) for size comparison.

Next to other toys again, for size comparison.

So, we used it for g-spot stimulation. The same curve and stiffness of the toy that makes it ideal for prostate massage, make it a good g-spot toy. It’s relatively short and doesn’t have much of a handle, so for solo use it’s awkward to try to use, but it’s divine when you have a partner there to rock it around.

A few safety and care tips about the Silo:

• It’s a butt toy. Butt toys are only safe if they have a flared base, so make sure that you invest in one that’s not going to land you in the emergency room. Nexus has plenty of options for you.
• Again, it’s a butt toy. If you don’t use a condom over it, it’s going to come into contact the naturally occurring bacteria up there. Please be smart and properly clean anything you put up your butt. The Silo is 100% medical grade silicone so it can be boiled or washed on the top rack of the dishwasher (no soap) to sanitize it. You can also wash it with an antibacterial soap after use. Just be sure that if you share it, between holes or partners, that you sanitize it or slip a condom over it first!
• Because it’s made of silicone, don’t use silicone based lubricants with it. The silicones will kill each other. These are luxury toys and you don’t want to mess them up!

Other than that, enjoy it!